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"Can I sit on your lap...."

Yes...

The answer is yes. And will always be yes.

Shortly following the newborn stage, my darling daughter would express a distaste for being held. She was my busy and independent girl from the littlest of ages.  I felt robbed.  She wouldn't even allow me to rock her to sleep.  Some of the best advice I ever got in parenting is "parent the child you have, not the child you want them to be."  Now, I know how that sounds.  I love and have loved my Haley, as is.  But I had a certain expectation of how I envisioned parenthood, and there was a real let down for me when I had a daughter who simply rejected the simple affectionate gesture of being held.  

Haley is now quickly approaching 4 and a new stage has approached us.  Cuddling with Haley.  Finally she is asking for affection.  Finally she is asking to be held.  Finally she is asking for cuddles.  And my heart couldn't be happier.  The moment maybe fleeting.  And sometimes, I sense it is a manipulation so she doesn't have to go to bed (smart girl).  But I truly cherish and revel in the moment.  

The past two nights we have cuddled after Owen went to bed.  Just talking and laughing.  She deserves my undivided attention and does not get it near enough.

So when she asks, 

Can I sit on your lap.....

The answer is yes.




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