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I Need a Clean Break...

So awhile ago I mentioned that I was giving up Facebook.

I made this decision for several reasons.  One being that I had access to it on my phone and would check it without even thinking.  Smartphones are amazing things, but they can be pesky as well.  It started driving me nuts that both Ian and myself had our phones in front of our faces 24/7.  So I took the step to quit Facebook cold turkey.  It would be a stupid thing to let something like Facebook distract me from spending time with my husband as our time if fairly limited anyway.

The second reason was Haley.  I wanted to focus on being in the moment with Haley.  When I was nursing, I would have my FB app open just looking.  Then I realized that this was a treasured time that I will never get back, and I was wasting it.  And sure enough, at 5 months old, I am already missing that special bonding time.

I also wanted more personal relationships with people.  Facebook friendships have become so shallow (from my perspective).  Empty promises of "oh we should get together sometime".  And to be honest, it feels really great when an old friend takes the extra effort to contact you.  Then you know they really care because they took the time.  Think about it.  How many times have you wondered what is up with someone, so you simply go to their page and know everything about their life in seconds.  How impersonal is that?  What happened to talking to friends over coffee.  Flipping through a handful of actual photos, not just cyber albums.  I still haven't been as good as I should have been about getting in touch with friends, so I am being a bit hypocritical.  But it is something that I am working on.   

Every once in awhile, I will log back on and see what's up.  And slowly I have logged on more and more (deactivating it before logging off).  The more I log on, the harder it is to stay away.  I know it sounds really crazy.  I mean, seriously, who gets addicted to Facebook.  And I wouldn't say it is an addiction, but I do enjoy seeing my cousin's photos of their kids.  Being able to keep up with people I wouldn't otherwise be in touch with.  The ease of planning events and being in touch with a whole group of people easily...but right now, the cons out weigh the pros.

I can't say I will never have a Facebook again.  But for now--I need a clean break.  I need to focus on the things that are real and right in front of me.  My relationship with God. My marriage.  My kidlet.  My family. Friendships. All of these things have their own complications that need to be addressed.  And none of these things can be addressed in my life without the clean break I so desperately need....

So from now on.  When I get the urg to Facebook...I will redirect.  Call, email, text a friend or family member to see what's up.  Have real conversations with people.  Have real friendships with people.   Give my husband and kidlet the time they deserve without being distracted.

So for my birthday, I am giving myself a clean break.  Time to refocus...
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Meant to be a mom said…
I don't blame you one bit. I feel the same exact way most of the time. But I can't ever seem to just quit it.
I did however really start to neglect my blog and bloggy friends the past 5 months since I had Blake. That makes me sad but I'm just so busy its hard to find hours of time to sit down.
10/26/2011 3:15 PM
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